So the time is upon us once more, Valentine’s Day has arrived. It is as inevitable as the tide of tinsel draped over almost everything at Christmas, and the plethora of oddly shaped chocolate treats that mark Easter. Everywhere you go there are hearts, balloons, flowers and sweets encroaching almost every shop window like the aftermath of a vicious fight between Miss Piggy and a branch of Clintons. But whether or not you like Valentine’s Day, I think it is a day for everyone.
But how, I hear you cry?
So many people write about how they want to hide away on Valentine’s Day to avoid the sight of happy couples strolling doe-eyed and fairy footed to a nearby restaurant. For some people the mere sight of a heart-shaped helium balloon makes them grind their teeth in irritation. For singles it seems to be all about suffering, and well… sadness. But I don’t think it has to be that way.
On almost every other day of the year, most singles are happy being just that. There’s the wonderful freedom that comes with a life being footloose and fancy free, the nights out with friends, and the lack of pressure to automatically cut the price of a new garment by two thirds as soon as you walk in the house. However, as soon as Valentine’s Day arrives you can almost hear the wails of distress from every corner.
If you are single, why not try a fresh new look at Valentine’s Day this year.
Think about all the people you love, friends, family, your dog, you name it. Focus on the love you have. Do something special for someone who needs cheering up. Think about all the wonderful things you have in life, and celebrate them. Maybe it is the perfect opportunity to round up your single friends for a night of games and laughter in your favourite pub. It doesn’t have to be doom and gloom. You can reclaim Valentine’s Day and make it your own!
Or are you one of the lucky ones? Have you already got your flowers on order and the champagne on ice? Do you await Valentine’s Day with a tummy full of butterflies and high hopes? Fantastic news! Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to not only show how much you care, but to do something different, and special, no matter what your budget is. One of the most romantic things anyone ever did for me was to shape the words “I love you” out of dry grass in a field when I was a teenager. It meant more than expensive jewellery or a fancy dinner.
And maybe there is someone in your life who you have always liked… Some you never quite had the courage to tell. Well, what a wonderful opportunity today is, it might change your life.
Some people will be preparing to pop the question this Valentine’s Day, while others will be popping to the nearest pub with their friends to spend it with the people they love. Some may spend Valentine’s Day mourning a long lost love, or celebrating the start of a new found single-dom, but however conventional or unconventional it is, no one should be afraid to celebrate it just how they want to.
This year for Valentine’s Day, although I won’t be fighting my way through a forest of bouquets just to get out of the front door, I will be thankful for all the people in my life who I love. I will remember when I was 13 years old and received a huge heart shaped cookie through the post, totally unsure of who it came from but unable to stop smiling for at least a week afterwards. I will remember all the good times with former flames, and I will smile because they happened and I was lucky enough to experience it all. I know it sounds easier said than done, but give it a try this year. I will send a few message to my closest girlfriends to say that I’m thinking of them today and all the things they do for me, and you never know, we might even go out for dinner and play some scrabble.